I think that when I'm thrust in a situation where I'm to accept something that I never thought I would have to deal with, I feel that, when the moment arises, I should be able to pop a joke. I saw on Craigslist an ad for a job that said "Bikini Girls Wanted". I'm sure I will get an ear..er...eyeful of comments from this. I joked to M that they were hiring the above subject, and it turned into an all-out yelling match about how I'm not respecting him and that I can't take jokes either. WHAT! EVER! I'm so pissed right now, that I don't even know what else to say. I'm not asking for advice, but I AM saying that I guess that as a heavy girl, I wouldn't have joked to M about the bikini thing, but I guess I thought as a boy, it would be okay, because I sometimes I need to get through this with some humor in order to not be worried about whether or not he will make friends, get his ass kicked, or just be able to be a normal boy. And before you come to his rescue, understand that we have always been able to joke, and I really thought he would take it funnily enough.
I'm pissed because I've been stewing. This has just be the formidable straw. Don't ask what I've been stewing about. I don't even think I know.Brooding Edward has nothing on me right now......
Don't know what to tell you, maybe you could get M to email me and tell me all about how disrespectful and insensitive you are.
ReplyDeleteKeep your sense of humor, it's important.
You're doing good.
I know that this is a really sensitive time for M and you but you have to have a sense of humor and sometimes jokes will fall flat because they are said at the wrong time or about the wrong subject, doesn't need a big outburst if that happens. If we can't laugh at ourselves or our friends feel that they can't joke with us, and lets be honest sometimes we need that to keep our feet firmly on the ground then we are going to end up crying instead.
ReplyDeleteIn your post you mentioned that you'd been stewing about some stuff. Do you know if M has been doing the same? Perhaps your comment simply came at just the wrong time.